Is there a mod to give you the Handmaiden as a femal character, yet doesn't take you eight levels of force usage to get her up to Jedi speed? One of the mods I had previously gave me the Handmaiden after two sessions with Kreia, but I don't have it now, and I keep getting the 'You're not ready yet' tag

I'd imagine it's because influence, as you might know. Each of the "Sparring" sessions nets you influence, with her, along with the asking her to clothe herself after any of them. I believe Kreia will talk about her after the second or last session, telling you about her mother being a Jedi. After this, you should be able to talk with the Handmaiden about it, and eventually mention "You could become a Jedi", or something to that effect.